About The Man in Dress

"I just can't concentrate in flat shoes."
— Victoria Beckham

I've worn that certain something since my teenage years. My closest friends don't know about it, yet it's part of who I am. It's the freedom to do what I want, even when "a man" supposedly doesn't. It makes me feel complete, arrived, simply at ease. Still, I'm not what people classically picture when they imagine someone like me. I'm not attracted to other men, and I have no wish to change my gender — quite the opposite. I'm a hundred percent happy with myself and my body. And that's exactly how my partner feels too, the woman I love more than anything. She doesn't just know about it — she supports me all the way.

"Well, a man just doesn't do that..."

You think the way you dress.

And in my case, I'd reach for words like "free," "elegant" and "visionary." My style brings together exactly what I think the next decades will hold. It certainly won't suit everyone. But in the end, it was never the people who answer change with "we've always done it this way" who moved the world forward.

"Be yourself the change you wish to see in this world." (Mahatma Gandhi)

How it started

We don't know each other, and yet I can already hear you asking: why do I do this, and how did it start? The problem is — I don't fully know myself.

It must have begun well before puberty, or somewhere in the middle of it. Shiny, soft fabrics felt irresistible to me — simply beautiful.

At the time, I knew nothing about classic gender roles, the gendering of clothing, or "appropriate" colour choices.

A to Z

We could go through my story from beginning to end, from alpha to omega, from A to Z — or we could just focus on what matters. And it's as simple as it is complicated.

There's no such thing as halfway in my life. There never has been. I either do something completely, or not at all. That naturally creates its fair share of small and big problems. But as someone once told me, I'll probably just have to live with the fact that my nature keeps attracting complicated situations.

Beyond that, I'm simply curious by nature! I love trying everything — from evening gowns to two-piece looks, head to toe, A to Z. And I feel completely at ease doing it. I enjoy the thrill of the new just as much as familiar surroundings, my circle, and ultimately my family.

Haute Couture

Within my budget, I put a lot of value on aesthetics — that's always been true. "Clothes make the man" isn't just a saying in my life. The desire for fine tailoring weighs just as heavily as the simple wish to feel desirable, and — put plainly — sexy.

Classic gender roles play a minor role for me here, because I want to express and represent myself in every outfit.

Multi-faceted

Everything that happens in my life is at least as varied as womenswear itself. Some might say I live two lives at once. Given how packed my days are, that's probably completely true. My two roles within the classic understanding of fashion are all the more consistent for it.

Mysterious

And even though my whole aesthetic revolves around clothing, and I play, day in and day out, exactly the role that whoever's in front of me wants to see, hear and experience — my true self stays hidden. Locked away within four protective walls. Concealed in secret. Tucked into a lonely suitcase.

Me.

So welcome to my personal blog. You'll get to know a side of me that not even my closest friends know — let alone have seen. You won't just be looking at garments, dresses and styles. You'll be looking straight into who I am.

That's me.

C'est la vie

I'm genuinely glad that I inspire you — whether you're simply curious, a woman whose partner does the same as I do, or a man who'd love to but can't, or doesn't dare.

I want to give you the answer, the inspiration and the peace of mind to do exactly that, and to be exactly who you want to be.

Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference…

With that in mind.